Monday, January 28, 2013

Dating Online: Tips for Men’s Emails to Women Online

Many dating online tips can be found around the subject of making contact for the first time, but you’ll rarely find advice on what to say in an email if you’re a man on the journey of finding a soulmate. But there are some very simple tips to make sure your email has the power it is intended to; follow them and your emails will end up hitting the mark every time.

Dating Online: Tips for Better Communication

Be Polite and Be Sweet

Needless to say, an email effusive with affectionate words makes it sound like you say that to everyone. One too many ‘darling’s or ‘honey’s could do you more damage than good. Be courteous, as would any man; be aware of and sensitive to the natural male tendency to dominate the situation. It’s not about YOU; it’s only about you. But don’t be afraid to sound affectionate, either. You do want her to feel special, so be charming by all means. In short, say all the things your mother consider “proper” - but without ‘oversaying’ them.

Make it Personal

An email is a person piece of communication and can’t be full of copy-paste phrases, as much as it makes it more convenient. Put yourself into the email. Finding a soulmate – if that’s your objective – isn’t going to be easy if you can’t express yourself in writing. Is your writing really bad? No problem – just have someone proofread it for you before you hit ‘send’. The care that you put into the email will convey itself to the reader of the said email. And of course, speaking of personalization: if you’re revealing your thoughts to an electronic entity like an ‘Inbox’, do make sure you’re sending it to the right person.

Ask to Connect Deeper

Confusing as this tip may sound, you need to make the move to get to the next level of communication – verbal. In other words, you need a phone number, so don’t be afraid to ask. However, try not to sound like a potential stalker in your very first email. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with asking on the first email, but only if you can put it across as a casual request, or even with an offer of your number. Whether you’re out finding a girlfriend or finding a soulmate, you can’t connect until you meet face to face, so all of this is the ‘building up toward’ phase.

Finding a girlfriend shouldn't be hard if you send out the right signals through whatever communication means you have at your disposal. With emails it is easy to be misunderstood so choose your words carefully, be enthusiastic about yourself and what you do, be interested in her activities without being inquisitive – all of these things will come through in an email. But above all, be genuinely friendly. If you’re serious about finding a soulmate, first find a friend.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.HowcanYouFindLove.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.HowCanYouFindLove.com Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Dating Online: Tips for Background Checks using Facebook

By: Lorii Abela

When you’re dating online, tips of any kind can prove invaluable. One of the most important of these is what to look for when you’re doing a background checkon a potential date through Facebook. Employers use this technique all the time to assess the potential of a candidate applying for a position – so why not you? After all, this is one of the most important positions you’ll even have a vacancy for in your life – your soul mate!

Dating Online: Tips to Check the Facebook Factor

Step 1: The Profile Photo

The first thing you’ll probably see on Facebook anyway is the guy or girl’s profile photo. This carries a very high “first impression value”. A woman who wants to be attractive to men, for example, is going to use her best photograph for her profile – and probably keep changing it quite often to highlight her best features. A man may not bother too much unless he’s ‘on the hunt’. This is the first step.

Step 2: The Attitude

The next step is to check how they communicate on Facebook. Are they rude and audacious with their comments; are they exhibitionists who constantly crave ‘likes’ and ‘shares’; are they respectful in the language they use? These are very important questions. As a woman, if you want to be attractive to men, you need to be aware of these nuances of communication. Otherwise, you’ll end up with someone of a completely different wavelength and have a tough time of making the relationship work.

Step 3: The Character

When you’re happy with what you see so far, the next step will be a much deeper analysis of their personality. If you’re thinking ‘I need to find me a boyfriend who has varied tastes, or ‘I want a girlfriend who loves rock and roll music’, then study their check-ins to see who they’re following on social media, what their online tastes and preferences are and useful information like that. The more you know about a person online, the better your first meeting will be.

Step 4: The Friend

The final step in this process is to check out their friends. After all, you will be a ‘friend of a friend’, so you may meet some of those people on your dates with your potential love. Be comfortable with their friends so you know what’s in store. As they say: “Birds of a feather flock together”, so make sure you’re comfortable with being among that flock of feathers. But don’t judge them by the company they keep; just use it as a guideline to show you who they hang out with and where their loyalties may lie.

When you’re dating online, tips like these can often be the only thing that allows you to be prepared for the first date. Know your date and you’re experience will be all the more engaged. Facebook is like a window to the soul, so use it to see whether you want to let the air in, or shut it and protect yourself from the cold.