Friday, July 27, 2012

7 Great Tips For Dating An Older Woman

By: Lorii Abela

Finding a soulmate has been a life-long dream to many. How good would it be if you have found that person who can be your perfect match? That can mean living with someone you feel a strong connection to, and someone you can be your own self with. You could have looked everywhere, but have not succeeded. You could have explored all the places you can imagine in your quest of finding a soulmate and yet, you found no one. Everyone is just too familiar, too uninteresting, and too normal.
You see your friend, or colleague, and you felt no strong feelings towards her. You might have been looking for something new and extraordinary. You could feel hopeless already, but you should not stop with just the boundaries of your neighborhood or your place of work. Finding a soulmate has no limitations. Delve deep into the unexplored, and do not be afraid to try something new; whatever that means for you.  For some, it can also be trying to date an older woman.

Men are naturally attracted to older women because men have the never-ending need to be taken cared of, and older women have all the experience in nurturing from their past relationships: ex-boyfriends, husbands, and children. Older women are more matured, independent and confident. They know what they want, and they get what they want.

Dating an older woman has now become normal to men, and you should not be ashamed to date an older woman. Though, of course, going out with an older woman may be intimidating at first, but it gets fun as you go along. And also, dating an older woman has its pros and cons.

Since an older woman has more experience and more knowledge, she may think that she is better than you so she is often in control and tries to manipulate you. Another issue would be her past baggage. Because behind those experiences in life, she has once thought that her quest for finding a soulmate has ended, and yet, she thought wrong. Your friends may tease you for dating an older woman which may have apending divorce and a tag-a-along child, and you have to be ready for that.

On the good side, however, your present relationship with an older woman may benefit from her experiences from her past. She very well knows what she wants, and she makes sure that you know it too. She is independent and does not require attention from you from time to time. She speaks her mind and you can forget the trouble of decoding what she really thinks.

Moreover, while attracting an older woman is exciting, doing the first moves may not be that easy. It requires your effort and determination to win an older woman’s heart. You should find a woman who is interested in dating a younger man. And if you already have a date with, do not fret. Here are some helpful tips to get you moving.
  1. Be yourself. She is with you because she likes you. Nothing beats being you. Show how fun and exciting it is to be with you.
  2. Take her to a place she has never been before. Tour her in your neighborhood; take her to your favorite indie music bar, or to a concert, or that new fascinating restaurant.
  3. Be well-conversed. An older woman is a smart woman. For her, a guy who can talk about almost about anything is a smart guy.
  4. Display spontaneity. Make spur-of-the-moment night outs. Take her by surprise by asking her to go skydiving with you.
  5. Do not compare her to your ex. Not only that it will make her feel bad, it is also rude. You should know that every woman is different.
  6. Posses the same passion for life as she has. Be confident of who and what you are.
  7. Take things slow. Remember that if she has failed finding a soulmate once, and she would rather take one step at a time now than fail again.
Dating an older woman may seem to be complicated but you must be willing to accept these complications if you are interested in dating her. And you can never tell if your goal of finding a soulmate will end with her. 

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Why didn't he call after our Date?

Dear Coach,

I went out on a date with this amazing man.
I had a great time and I thought he did too. After our date, he said he'd call. Five days later, my phone hasn't rang yet.

I really like this man, and I'm devastated that he broke his promise - I feel like a fool.


Dear Janice,
I am going to answer this question as bluntly as I can because I refuse to sugarcoat the truth for you. There are many possible reasons why men who say they'll call DON'T call. I'll give you a few reasons but read the entire blog so you can enjoy my golden nugget at the very end.

Possible Reasons Why He Didn't Call After the Date

1. ...he didn't want hurt your feelings. It's also possible that he's not that attracted to you, or you're totally not his type, and he didn't have the balls to tell you straight-up, so it's easier for him to simply fly solo by MIA.

2. ...he forgot. He could've been diagnosed with Senilityosis three days before he went out on a Date with you. You can't blame him if he doesn't even remember your name.

3. ...he's married. Or in a relationship with someone else. If his wife found out that he went out on a romantic Dinner date with you, he'll lose his video game privileges, so he's keeping you under wraps. Pun intended.

4. ...he's emotionally unavailable. He may be single, he may be physically available, but it's possible that he is NOT 'emotionally' available to you, nor to anyone else at the moment. And he probably doesn't even know it, so he doesn't feel the need to commit to anything, much less a second date.

5. ...he's a Playeh. The Don Juan of the Century who mastered the art of Copying and Pasting his profile and pics on 2,400 Online Dating websites may be scheduling 3 dates a day, 15 dates a week, taking weekends off still counts you against 89 other dates he's had in a month.

6. ...he figured you have nothing in common. Nada. Zilch. He likes Hockey, you hate the violence. He likes Mexican, you prefer Sushi. He thinks you should wear flats, you like high heels. You snore, he doesn't. Which brings me to the next one...

7. ...if you've already had sex with him and he felt it wasn't as great as he thought it would be, maybe he's not willing to share his feelings with you face-to-face. It IS awkward to tell someone they're not that great in bed. C'est la vie! Keep in mind, your version of GREAT may be entirely different than his version, so, again, don't take offense.

8. ...he expected someone different. He may have thought you were a self-absorbed chatterbox when all along durng your Date, you felt that you were being affable, social and open with him. Perception and Assumption play very important roles in Dating.

9. ...he realized he's not in a good place in his life right now. He needs his 'Space' to assess what's going on in his life and figure out where and how to proceed from here. That's right, there's no room for you right now. No need to take it personaly. At least not until he figures things it out for himself.

I've only cited a few reasons why he didn't call. Bottom line is, it doesn't matter why didn't call, what matters is that he DIDN'T, so don't assume it was all about you. That type of thinking will only serve to lower your self-esteem and sink you into depression.

It's not worth it.

Move on by not getting too obsessed with the PRESSURE and EXPECTATIONS that arise from thinking that you've had a great date.

As a matter of fact, I'm a firm believer in this...Do not walk into a date putting too much pressure and expectations (on yourself nor on your Date) of having a romantic connection right away. When you do, you set yourself up for disappointment if the person didn't live up to your unfounded 'pre-Date expectations'.

Instead, walk into a Date hoping to step out of your comfort zone, and with the intent of bringing out the BEST in another Human Being and simply enjoying your experience with someone new! You end up being curious about who this person is and you subconsciously stop being nervous and self-conscious. Just have fun with it.

Last but not least, stop assuming that his decision not to call is all about you. It's not. It could be him. You're a beautiful, amazing Goddess and you deserve someone who appreciates that. Go back to the list above, move on and schedule another Date.


Love and non-fattening kisses,
Your Dating Coach

Monday, July 2, 2012

Find Me a Husband: Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes

By: Lorii Abela

In this video, I am sharing about some pointers on “how do I find a husband” through the example of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes.  Their split is presumed to be accounted out of many things like professional rivalry, sexual orientation of Tom Cruise which has been rumored as gay, and his Scientology religion. Enjoy!

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free Email Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriated. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.