Dating Online: Tips for Handling Overseas Contacts

By: Lorii Abela


When you’re dating online, tips on any subject can be of great value. That value is enhanced when the issue is overseas contacts. At some time or other, you may have been attracted to a profile of a person not living in your country. Here are some dating online tips to ensure that you always stay on top of the situation, and not allow someone to take advantage of your trust.

Those on “Temporary” Assignment to a Third-World Country

Steer clear of anyone who claims to be an American or Brit or from another European country, but says that they’re on “deputation” to a third-world country like Nigeria or Ghana. This is not to say that there aren’t genuine people from those countries wanting to make contact for the right reasons; but as a general rule stay away from anything that feels like a potential scam. Typical ‘scam symptoms’ are people offering you their phone numbers (most likely satellite numbers that are assigned to a particular community because they don’t have regular land telephony) a little too eagerly. They may be trying to gain your trust by “giving” you some personal information about themselves or telling you that their search to find a soulmate has finally ended – just to get yours in return.

THOSE WHO WRITE IN CAPITAL LETTERS AND CALL YOU SWEETHEART

Definitely stay away from these ‘template’ emails that try to endear you to the sender. Watch for letters written in capital letters and those with really bad grammar. These are typically sent to hundreds of people by scammers, and once you’ve taken the bait they’ll start to personalize their communication and get something out of you. Ideally, if you can verify the identity of an overseas contact, it solves a lot of problems for you down the road. Don’t be too inquisitive about their background, but make discreet inquiries of your own through man’s best friend – Google.

Those Asking for a Free Ride

Beware of people who are so eager to meet you that they are willing to ask you for financial help! An email asking you for “travel money” to get to your country so they can be “united” with their “soulmate” isn’t a good sign – especially if that’s one of the first few emails you receive from that person. The other aspect of this is not to make yourself out to be a Bridget Jones waiting for her knight in shining armor from a strange land to come and sweep her off her feet. If you’re looking to find a soulmate, then the Colin Firths and Hugh Grants of this world needn’t be from Timbuktu to be the real deal. Try not to sound like you’d do anything to expedite their travel to your country. And above all, never offer monetary help at any time. If you feel that you’ve come across the right person, give it some time to see if the relationship can amount to anything other than a wasted charge on your Visa.

Hopefully, these dating online tips will help you steer clear of the most obvious cons, but when you’re dealing with someone outside your own country, you can never be too careful.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Finding a Soulmate: Why You Should Give Online Dating a Try

By: Lorii Abela

There are many reasons to give online dating a try. We do everything else online so why not date? Online dating has become very popular for those who are busy and do not have much time to look for someone to date. There are many successful, good looking, singles online at all hours of the day and night using internet dating sites.  The match making capabilities of many of the online dating sites are extremely successful. Single men and women all over the world have saved time and money by finding a soulmate using dating websites, so stop wondering “how can you find love”, and give online dating a try.

 Dating online tips and reasons you should try online dating:

1. Online dating is extremely convenient.  In this day and age, many people find it quite difficult to make the time to date. With careers and children, dating can be very time consuming. That is why online dating is so great. You can talk to several people through online messages, email, and instant chat programs in your pajama’s at any time of the day. No more hiring a babysitter or racing home from work to change before a trip to different activities in search of a date.

2. The selection of single men and women is more varied.  Meeting someone online gives you so many options that you normally would not encounter in your day to day life. You are not likely to meet the people that you will online. Think about where you go and what you do every day. Unless you want to date a co-worker, your child’s teacher, or your doctor, you probably do not meet many datable people.  Instead of having your choices limited to the singles in your surrounding area, it is possible to meet single men and women from all over the world on the internet. Simply broadening the search area of singles a bit could be all it takes to meet your soulmate. Who says Mister or Miss Right is not nearly 300 miles away just waiting for you?

3. You have the option to view many photos and read personal information about each potential match. With dating websites you can read a person’s profile and look at all their pictures before you even begin corresponding with them. This gives you an idea as to whether someone is worth getting to know, before you ever begin talking with them.

4. You can get to know a person before the first date.  Beginning a relationship online is not only very convenient, it allows you to correspond with someone and get to know them a little before agreeing to meet them in person. This will help you avoid getting stuck out on a date with a person with whom you do not have anything in common searching for a way to end the date gracefully.

5. It is a lot more inexpensive than going to singles events all the time. While the safest dating sites have a small membership fee, they are much cheaper than all the events you must attend in order to meet someone the old-fashioned way.

6. There is no guessing as to who is available and interested in getting to know you. If you are a little shy, fill out a profile, post some pictures, and let interested singles come to you.  All the time and guess work is gone when you date online.

Many successful relationships are started on dating websites, and you really have nothing to lose by giving it a shot. Who knows? You might just gain a soulmate. 







Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.