Dating Online: Tips for Handling Local Contacts

By: Lorii Abela

Most dating online tips center around security and safety measures on the first meeting. However, there are generally signs that the relationship may not be going in the right direction well before that happens. Don’t worry when that happens – finding a soulmate might just mean going through a heap of coal before you discover a diamond.

Dating Online: Tips for the Girl/Guy Next Door

Tip Number One: If they don’t want to meet, it might mean they’re hiding something, and that’s seldom a sign of a good start. Or it could mean that they’re not trustful enough of you. Or it might simply be that they have families, and therefore, weekend commitments. If a guy is reluctant to meet, that might well be the case.

The tip is: Watch for Signs of Reluctance to Meet

Tip Number Two: If you can’t see a photo of them on the internet (an actual one, mind you – not an avatar) then they’re either too cheap to spend $10 on a decent digital photo of themselves or – again – they may have something to hide.

The tip is: Make a Decent Photo Your Benchmark

Tip Number Three: Trust, but verify – Part of Lenin’s ideology but adapted by President Ronald Reagan during his term. It would serve well to make note of this. Prior to a first date, make sure you aren't caught unaware. Never let your contact pick you up if you can get there yourself;  tell someone where you’ll be and for how long.  Don’t dress provocatively; stay sober; and watch your drink! But despite these warnings, you must tune in to the right signs when you’re in the process of finding a soulmate: you can’t be too cautious and miss out on real possibilities. The law of attraction for love doesn't work well with suspicion as the basis of a relationship.

The tip is: Trust, but Verify

The third tip is probably the most important tip of all because it covers so many areas. You need to review their ‘stories’ to see if there are contradictions, perhaps take notes so you don’t get things mixed up; you want to check about kids, especially if they’re reluctant to accept a video call and you can clearly hear a “daddy” in the background – and don’t be fooled by the old “oh, I’m just their uncle” trick. Even Christian dating sites aren't free of people pretending to be something they’re not. The idea is not to scare you, but prepare you.

Soulmate Secret: Fundamentals of Being in Love

By: Lorii Abela

Perhaps at some point in your life you ponder upon the meaning of love. You might wonder why for some people it seems fairly easy to find love while for others the chance of finding a soulmateis quite nil. Are there some bases to follow like the so-called fundamentals of being in love? Well, some may say you are just lucky when you are successful at the thing called love. Although this is possible especially in fairytales, you definitely would like to review some keys on how to find your true love.

How to Find True Love?

Be in Love with Yourself

Yes, be in love with yourself! I am not saying that you turn into a narcissist person? Love actually starts from within and that means it should come from you first. Learn to appreciate yourself and accentuate the good points that you love about yourself. Do the things you love to do that are worthwhile and those that contribute to your self-improvement. In time these will reflect in the way you live your life and relate to others. You will be surprised it is then easier to find love with you bearing this kind of outlook.

Don’t Panic!

You think you are getting older and still single? You are absolutely not alone, so do not try to force love. Have you noticed that the more you force it the farther it slips away? It is because the law of attraction for love does not work this way. So do not be like the one who always thinks of ways or focuses on looking for a soulmate all the time. Mind you, when you are ready, naturally love will show up.

Love is not Always a Bed of Roses

It is quite impossible to never encounter any conflict in a relationship. This is actually part of it since the two of you are not exactly alike. You have different personalities, backgrounds, opinions, etc. So there is the possibility of getting hurt. To work things out both of you need to compromise. When problems arise cooperation is very important as well.

Define Your Expectations Clearly

The way you show your love to your partner may be very different from the way he expresses it. This is a fact that you should accept. Do not then expect to be loved the way you love since basically everyone has their own way of showing their love.

Happily Ever After

Not all love last for a lifetime. If you have to part, just acknowledge that your relationship in some period of time have clicked for a reason. Sure, you have done all the best that you could to keep that loving feeling and save your relationship. If it has to end, then it ends. Remind yourself then that true love lasts and if your relationship did not last as you had hoped for, then most probably it was not meant to be. You must have learned your lesson by now and continue to move on.

True love lasts so do not be discouraged since in time you will definitely find the one that’s written in the stars for you.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Attract Men by Being Mysterious

By: Lorii Abela

After a hard day’s work, you sit back and relax with a romance novel. You are just too tired to go out with friends on the weekends. You particularly do the same things everyday following your daily routine. You have noticed some of your friends are getting married or in several relationships, may be casual or long term. You can’t particularly do the same things for a long period of time or your life will be boring, so suddenly it occurs to you that you want some change and then you start telling yourself, “I want a boyfriend too.” Of course you can, but you have to definitely change the way you think and your lifestyle needs a bit of tweaking as well since you can never have a boyfriend by just relaxing with a romance novel after a hard day’s work. You need to go out on weekends and meet all those pleasant people you can meet. You might ask yourself how you will find a boyfriend. How to be attractive to men is not a difficult thing to do as long as you know some of the guideline to attract men. You can actually attract men by being mysterious.

How is it possible to attract men by being mysterious?

Most women think that attraction is totally based on attributes or physical appearance. Contrary to this, generally what most women do not know is that the ability to combine both the serious and the fun and doing it in a way that is unpredictable is what attracts a guy for the most part and makes him stay wanting for more. When you are unpredictably funny and sassy it is a plus point for attraction. When it is paired with something serious, it is a surefire complete attraction that creates some kind of mystery which will definitely make him stay with you. This simply makes you desirable and memorable since you keep him guessing what your next move is which practically signals that you are not boring to him. Also, if you can have a demeanor that is somewhat aloof which shows you can stand without him and you are not trying to impress him, this will give him the challenge to prove his worth to you.

How can you be mysterious to him?

• Be unpredictable- do varied things. Have a bit of mystery and surprises since these will keep his interest.
• Do not be available all the time. If you seem to be keeping tabs on him, he might think you are a stalker or pathetic. Give him the space he needs. When he makes a call, do not be there to answer right away just like you are waiting for him to call.
• Have different plans occasionally. Occasionally, meet up with your girlfriends. Do not change your plans in his favor whenever he asks you out. Do not say “yes” right away all the time.
• Do not tell him everything. Avoid telling him everything about yourself, particularly on the first date, or else there is no more left to find out about you.
• Tackle on new topics when talking to each other. Avoid the mundane and usual topics such as his life, job, etc. that ordinarily what most people talk about. New topics are always good to keep the conversation interesting.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Soulmate Secret: Looking for a Soulmate

By: Lorii Abela

Have you been looking for a soulmate? Well, you are not alone since women are predisposed to this age- old idea that is quite associated with the question about how to find true love. However, time and again you have been wondering why is it that when you thought you had almost found your soulmate then it just slipped away. Perhaps you have been holding on to the past for quite some time after your breakup. Shy away from your ex since he belongs to the past that should be forgotten. Only then you will be able to move on and eventually finding a soulmate is not something that you should worry about anymore.

Shy Away from Your EX

Create Some Space

Being friends with your ex is not a problem as long as you know how to draw the line between being friends and being in love once. You do not want to be associated together as if you are still lovers since that would definitely defeat the purpose of your looking for a soulmate. The bottom line is you need to create some space to be able to close the doors of the past between you and your ex. How can your potential soulmate approach you if are still together with your ex? Besides your ex is not the only friend you can have around.

Create a Closure

There is nothing more liberating than putting the past behind between you and your ex and forgiving him. It is absolutely useless to relive the past when you have the future ahead of you to meet that new special someone with more confidence and applying the lessons you’ve learned from your past relationship that way you don’t make the same mistakes again. The freedom from emotional baggage that you get from forgiving your ex will permeate through you and exude a positive energy. Then before you know it, a new person shows up and more often than not when you least expect it!

Start with a Clean Slate

Moving on includes cleaning up your place of anything related to your past relationship. Get rid of those memorabilia anything from letters, pictures, stuffed toys, to presents including those cute gift wrappers with your favorite design, that is if you’re the sentimental type, if not a pack rat. You do not want to go back to those moments when you received those while enjoying a conversation with your new mate who has dropped by your place for dinner. You should prepare space for a new relationship so clean the energy surrounding you.

Ready Yourself for the New Love of Your Life

The common mistake most make after a breakup is to look for a new relationship right away to get over. But that is not how it should be since you are compromising your new relationship this way. Without completely moving on, chances are you would have the tendency to compare your past relationship with the new one which is not good or end up talking about it with your new partner which is absolutely a no-no.  Perhaps you have done too much thinking about your ex and you are definitely done with it. Move on, give yourself some time and open yourself up to a new love.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Are You Ready To Date?

By: Lorii Abela

Are you ready to date? But before knowing whether you are or not, let’s first know what dating is all about. Dating generally refers to doing some activities together in public as a way of determining if the two of you are compatible which can gradually develop into a casual relationship or a long term relationship. Well, then it is very important to identify what you exactly want. Are you looking for a casual relationship or a long term relationship? Both kinds of relationships are quite different from each other and for you to be able to maximize your dating experience, you must be able to determine beforehand what you really want. That way your expectations are met and you get the feeling of joy out of dating in the sense that it can help you have a better relationship by making it work since you know what to expect from such kind of relationship. Let us now differentiate the two kinds of relationships.

What is a casual relationship and what to expect from it?

• Usually a casual relationship has very few expectations.
• It is common to those who just had a break up and who is not ready to get into something serious again.
• It is convenient to those who cannot commit to a relationship that is serious for reasons related to work such as those working in shift hours or more than the regular hours.
• It is for those who just prefer to experience some fun and something “laid back.”
• It can mean meeting an ex-lover again but on a casual level. 
• There is no “emotional ties” between the two of you.
• It can also mean meeting another person since this is not exclusive to just one person.
• It can mean not seeing of each other that much and just seeing as it suits you both.

What is a long term relationship and what to expect from it?

• There are more expectations if not a lot to be met to make your relationship work and last.
• A long term relationship is the kind of relationship which is serious.
• There is a commitment involved between the two of you which is a very important factor in this kind of relationship.
• Trust is an important factor in this kind of relationship to keep it working.
• Love and care are the two emotions that bond both of you, so it is important for both to feel loved and cared for in this relationship.
• There is a commitment involved so you need time for each other, to be there for each other when you need it both.
• This is a serious kind of relationship and thus it is exclusive to just one person, so you cannot meet another person.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Dating Online: Tips for Handling Overseas Contacts

By: Lorii Abela


When you’re dating online, tips on any subject can be of great value. That value is enhanced when the issue is overseas contacts. At some time or other, you may have been attracted to a profile of a person not living in your country. Here are some dating online tips to ensure that you always stay on top of the situation, and not allow someone to take advantage of your trust.

Those on “Temporary” Assignment to a Third-World Country

Steer clear of anyone who claims to be an American or Brit or from another European country, but says that they’re on “deputation” to a third-world country like Nigeria or Ghana. This is not to say that there aren’t genuine people from those countries wanting to make contact for the right reasons; but as a general rule stay away from anything that feels like a potential scam. Typical ‘scam symptoms’ are people offering you their phone numbers (most likely satellite numbers that are assigned to a particular community because they don’t have regular land telephony) a little too eagerly. They may be trying to gain your trust by “giving” you some personal information about themselves or telling you that their search to find a soulmate has finally ended – just to get yours in return.

THOSE WHO WRITE IN CAPITAL LETTERS AND CALL YOU SWEETHEART

Definitely stay away from these ‘template’ emails that try to endear you to the sender. Watch for letters written in capital letters and those with really bad grammar. These are typically sent to hundreds of people by scammers, and once you’ve taken the bait they’ll start to personalize their communication and get something out of you. Ideally, if you can verify the identity of an overseas contact, it solves a lot of problems for you down the road. Don’t be too inquisitive about their background, but make discreet inquiries of your own through man’s best friend – Google.

Those Asking for a Free Ride

Beware of people who are so eager to meet you that they are willing to ask you for financial help! An email asking you for “travel money” to get to your country so they can be “united” with their “soulmate” isn’t a good sign – especially if that’s one of the first few emails you receive from that person. The other aspect of this is not to make yourself out to be a Bridget Jones waiting for her knight in shining armor from a strange land to come and sweep her off her feet. If you’re looking to find a soulmate, then the Colin Firths and Hugh Grants of this world needn’t be from Timbuktu to be the real deal. Try not to sound like you’d do anything to expedite their travel to your country. And above all, never offer monetary help at any time. If you feel that you’ve come across the right person, give it some time to see if the relationship can amount to anything other than a wasted charge on your Visa.

Hopefully, these dating online tips will help you steer clear of the most obvious cons, but when you’re dealing with someone outside your own country, you can never be too careful.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Finding a Soulmate: Why You Should Give Online Dating a Try

By: Lorii Abela

There are many reasons to give online dating a try. We do everything else online so why not date? Online dating has become very popular for those who are busy and do not have much time to look for someone to date. There are many successful, good looking, singles online at all hours of the day and night using internet dating sites.  The match making capabilities of many of the online dating sites are extremely successful. Single men and women all over the world have saved time and money by finding a soulmate using dating websites, so stop wondering “how can you find love”, and give online dating a try.

 Dating online tips and reasons you should try online dating:

1. Online dating is extremely convenient.  In this day and age, many people find it quite difficult to make the time to date. With careers and children, dating can be very time consuming. That is why online dating is so great. You can talk to several people through online messages, email, and instant chat programs in your pajama’s at any time of the day. No more hiring a babysitter or racing home from work to change before a trip to different activities in search of a date.

2. The selection of single men and women is more varied.  Meeting someone online gives you so many options that you normally would not encounter in your day to day life. You are not likely to meet the people that you will online. Think about where you go and what you do every day. Unless you want to date a co-worker, your child’s teacher, or your doctor, you probably do not meet many datable people.  Instead of having your choices limited to the singles in your surrounding area, it is possible to meet single men and women from all over the world on the internet. Simply broadening the search area of singles a bit could be all it takes to meet your soulmate. Who says Mister or Miss Right is not nearly 300 miles away just waiting for you?

3. You have the option to view many photos and read personal information about each potential match. With dating websites you can read a person’s profile and look at all their pictures before you even begin corresponding with them. This gives you an idea as to whether someone is worth getting to know, before you ever begin talking with them.

4. You can get to know a person before the first date.  Beginning a relationship online is not only very convenient, it allows you to correspond with someone and get to know them a little before agreeing to meet them in person. This will help you avoid getting stuck out on a date with a person with whom you do not have anything in common searching for a way to end the date gracefully.

5. It is a lot more inexpensive than going to singles events all the time. While the safest dating sites have a small membership fee, they are much cheaper than all the events you must attend in order to meet someone the old-fashioned way.

6. There is no guessing as to who is available and interested in getting to know you. If you are a little shy, fill out a profile, post some pictures, and let interested singles come to you.  All the time and guess work is gone when you date online.

Many successful relationships are started on dating websites, and you really have nothing to lose by giving it a shot. Who knows? You might just gain a soulmate. 







Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com  Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.