Saturday, July 27, 2013

How to be Successful in Cross Cultural Dating

A cross cultural relationship may sound interesting and cool but it is actually challenging and can become bumpy at times. Aside from the socio-economic backgrounds, where the two of you grew up; either in a small town or big city, your differences in culture really play a significant part in your relationship. Thus, cross cultural dating must be considered a time to narrow the cultural barriers. It should be regarded as something to learn all you can about the person you are dating who has a different culture from yours since the more you become familiar with your cultural differences the more you two will be able to understand each other and make your relationship grow strong and eventually stand the test of time.

Try as much as you can to narrow the cultural gap

Respect your differences

Indeed no two people are alike even twins as the saying goes and this is all the more true in a relationship between two different cultures. Finding a soulmate actually is not only limited to the same culture. It can even be more interesting when different cultures are involved. The key is not only to know your differences but also to respect the differences of your mate as well as those people around such as family and friends.

Determine how much they are into their culture

Always bear in mind that the loyalty of your mate to his culture has also shaped his personality and beliefs, thus by knowing this you can then be able to adjust. When talking about migration for example, you also have to consider that there is really a difference between someone who migrated here as a child or who migrated as an adult.

Learn the taboo words and actions

Different cultures have various taboo words and actions, so by making time and effort on your part to learn the taboo words and actions you will be saving yourself from getting into trouble. It is quite helpful so as not to be misinterpreted or regarded as rude.

Do your own research and observation pertaining to this matter or better yet ask your mate about it. He would be more than willing to teach you since this shows you are interested and he would be more pleased to know it.

Focus on the similarities

How can you find love and make it last forever is something that is based on how strong you and your mate focus on your similarities instead of your differences since by sharing your similarities you are both able to develop a special bond that will help avoid conflicts that may later arise as your relationship is progressing. By focusing on the things that you both have in common you will then be giving your relationship the opportunity to thrive more.

Cross cultural relationships are actually all right as long as you are willing to compromise and do your best to make it last just like in any other kind of relationship.

Enjoy the search and the goodluck! Use these tips to leverage on how to find the girl for you. You can get more information on how you can find love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.

Lorii Abela is a Law of Attraction Practitioner and Finding True Love Coach for expatriates. She herself has manifested her match in 30 days through a process that she now teaches. Discover her secrets to finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Lorii is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.

Friday, July 12, 2013

Dating Someone with No Common Interests

By: Lorii Abela

Dating has to be fun and worthwhile and this entirely depends on how you are getting along with the other person. Dating someone with no common interests can also be exciting that is if you are open to the possibility of dating someone who has interests that are quite different from yours. Having common interests is actually one of the keys to a fulfilling and lasting relationship; however, it requires time for you to be able to know if you have the same interests or not. One way to know is to date someone. Finding your match would not be that hard if you already have some guidelines.

Set a standard to gauge compatibility

Know what you want in finding a soulmate

Aside from saving you time, having a “wish list” is convenient and clear. Before dating, it is actually healthy to identify the core characteristics you wish your ideal mate to have. This should be considered as something important since from the outset you are able to identify and be sure of what you want. Without knowing this, you might settle for someone who is just available and wind up making choices you would regret later.

Do not accept someone who does not meet your “wish list”

Learn to say no if the core characteristics you have in your list are not present in this person who suddenly shows up in your life. If those interests you expect from an ideal mate are not typical of him, then most likely you have not found your match yet.

Give chance

If the person and you have something in common but not all of the characteristics in your wish list, do not say no right away especially if the things you do not have in common are not among your top non-negotiable. Law of attraction relationships usually start from this.

Never try to change a person

Do not insist on forcing and changing a person. No amount of intimidation will work. Changing a person is always a futile attempt unless that person is also willing to change but then again change is really up to the person. How much you understand the person and his characteristics is all that matters.

Some relationships are smooth. Is it because both actually love each other? But other relationships are rocky you can’t explain why. Is it because both have no common interests? Actually, both love and common interests are essential in every lasting relationship.